In this monologue editorial piece, Prince Ajibola shares his thought process on his birthday (July 30th , 1991) with his readers. He opens up about the reality of his life at 25 in a bare it all reflective article of how he found himself in the quarter life crisis. The objective of this piece is to connect the reader with the personality writing the series. It’s important for the readers to know that the author is far from being perfect and he himself is on a journey of self-discovery and trying to figure out the quarter life crisis. Its honest, its deep and it promises to be a great read.
An exert from Life at 25 (the editorial series)
The quarter life crisis is an occurrence observed by young adults in their twenties. This occurrence is characterized by severe anxiety, emotional highs and lows, deep reflections and some heavy soul searching leading to self-discovery and purpose. It is the tipping point in our lives where we either choose to conquer or crumble under the pressures we face in the world.
If you have never experienced such an occurrence you may consider yourself lucky but in order to be great your truth will need to speak, and who you are and what you have to offer will be questioned.
The crisis normally commences when…….
………… Stay tuned for more on the subject matter.
“Life at 25” is an editorial series by Prince Ajibola, a young social entrepreneur in his mid-twenties, which promises to address the concerns and challenges we face in our twenties.
Let’s work together to conquer the issues we are facing as young adults growing up in a chaotic and hostile world.
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About the author:
Prince Ajibola is a social entrepreneur who has been strategically branded as a business and brand management consultant and an emerging market expert.
During the day, He sits on the board of directors of several start-ups and works as thePrinciple Consultant of PME Lagos, while he doubles as a Writer, Creative Director, and an Event and Talent Promoter in his leisure time!
As someone who believes that one’s passion and talent can be harnessed and turned into wealth creation, Prince Ajibola enjoys the perfect balance between business and entertainment!
So in a bid to find out why people lie, I decided to ask google… and there it was! An article By the Famous By “Robert J. Burrowes”. It was a real eye opener for me and I have to say it was so true. The bases of all the lies we tell all comes down to one very thing, FEAR!!!
The fear of being judge, looked down upon, punished, not being believed and other insecurities, it all has to do with fear. To overcome a lying tongue one needs to overcome FEAR itself!
Read below insights from Dr. Roberts himself…..
The purpose of fear is to suppress awareness of the truth.
People always lie for the same reason: fear. But the precise fear that makes a person lie in one circumstance might be different from the fear that makes them lie in another.
When a child is young, it will naturally tell the truth. Most usually, it starts to learn to lie (consciously or unconsciously) when it discovers that it is not believed when it tells the lie or it is blamed and punished for telling the truth (particularly if the truth is unpalatable to a parent or other adult). In these circumstances, lying might occur in an attempt to be believed or in an attempt to avoid blame and punishment and the lie might take the form of the child fearfully telling the parent what the child knows the parent wants to hear. Why does this happen?
Because a child is genetically programmed to behave functionally (evolution had to get this right or individuals and species would not survive infancy), it would always tell the truth. But if it is not
believed then the child must ‘learn’ to devise strategies, including lying, to be believed. This might start as a fearfully conscious response but it will probably become increasingly unconscious and automated as it learns what is ‘expected’.
If the child is blamed and/or punished for telling an unpalatable truth then, again, it must ‘learn’ to devise strategies, including lying, to avoid blame and punishment. Given that many social institutions routinely require behaviours that evolution did not intend and which are not functional (for example, sitting in a school classroom all day), the child will be progressively dysfunctionalized in a variety of ways, including ones that scare it out of telling the truth about how it feels and what it needs (as it would otherwise do naturally).
By the time the typical child has reached adolescence, it will live in a world of considerable delusion about itself, other people and the world in general. In these circumstances, the emerging adult will now lie unconsciously, primarily in order to maintain its delusions about itself and the complementary delusions it has about others and the world. This is why most politicians lie. But they are not alone.
For example, a mother will want to maintain a sense of herself as ‘a good mother’ (however dysfunctionalized and/or violent she is) and if one or more of her children decide to challenge her dysfunctional/violent behaviours or even to discontinue their relationship with her, then, rather than acknowledge her dysfunctional/violent behaviours and accept responsibility for dealing with these (which would require her to have the courage to feel the suppressed fear, pain, anger, sadness and other feelings that drive her dysfunctionalities and violence), she is most likely to reinforce her own delusions about herself by lying about herself and her child, including about the reasons her child no longer wants to have a relationship with her.
But much of her lying will be unconscious because, to lie consciously would mean that she could acknowledge (at least to herself) her dysfunctional/violent behaviours and, perhaps, accept responsibility for dealing with these. However, of course, this almost invariably does not happen precisely because of her fear (based on her own childhood experience) of being blamed and punished for making, and acknowledging, ‘mistakes’. It is far less frightening to fearfully lie (and act accordingly) than to acknowledge her delusion about herself and to accept responsibility for her dysfunctional and violent behaviours.
So why do most people believe lies?
Each child is born with a predisposition to believe the adults in its life. This is evolutionarily functional because childhood survival depends on adult care. But the child is also born with the potential to develop a ‘truth register’: the mental function, related to anger, that enables it to detect lies. Unfortunately, the truth register, like all potential capacities, is a subtle and easily damaged mental function and if a child is lied to chronically by a parent or other significant adult during its childhood, the truth register will either not develop or it will be weakened to such an extent that it will no longer readily detect lies.
A person who has been lied to chronically will develop a gullibility that is obvious to those with a developed truth register but even the gullibility of others will be obscure to those with an undeveloped or weakened truth register of their own.
What can we do about lying? Just four things will fix this chronic problem: always tell the truth fearlessly yourself, always believe children, always take affirmative action in response to the child’s truth, and never punish anyone (including whistleblowers like Bradley Manning and Edward Snowden) for telling the truth.
You can run from the truth
You can hide from the truth
You can deny the truth
But you cannot destroy the truth
By Robert J. Burrowes
Biodata: Robert has a lifetime commitment to understanding and ending human violence.
He has done extensive research since 1966 in an effort to understand
why human beings are violent and has been a nonviolent activist since 1981.
He is the author of ‘Why Violence?’ http://tinyurl.com/whyviolence
His email address is email@example.com and his website is at http://robertjburrowes.wordpress.com
“Many people pay less attention to their lips and many try as much as possible to get pink lips but nothing is working out for them.
Some even go as far as doing surgery and trying different method to get artificially pink lips, but the question is does the artificial pink lips really last for ever? without side effect?
DONT STRESS YOURSELF
HERE ARE SOME OF MY EASY HOME MADE REMEDY TIPS TO GET NATURAL PINK LIPS.
1•Brush your lips with soft tooth brush every night before going to bed or while brushing your teeth!
2•scrub your lips with sugar add with lemon and olive oil, to exforliate the dead cells on the lips surface!
3•make a paste mixture of: lemon, glycerin, crushed seed of pomegranate, beetroot juice, rose-petal, youghort and olive oil
Apply this mixture of paste on your lips & leave for 30mins then gently scrub it off & rinse your lips with milk.
always moisturize your lips with lip-balm when going out and always apply coco butter whenever you are inside to keep your lips soft. Although this treatment requires patience and continuity, a good outcome is guaranteed within a couple of days,
if applied everyday.
Tips by sawdiq-wealthcom
Fitness trainer,wellness specialist, massage and beauty therapist”